What are your values of life? Are they your family? nature? money? adventure?
Knowing your values will deepen your self knowledge. With an understanding of self you will know how to make decisions according to the things you believe in. You will gain confidence and self esteem.
How to Know Your Top Values of Life
1. Check off your top 10 values from the list below.
2. Prioritize your values 1-10.
3. For each of your top ten values, ask yourself the question: ‘Am I living my life according to this value?’
For example, if one of your values is 'family,' ask yourself if you are spending enough quality time with your family. If another value is adventure, ask yourself if you are taking the time to do things that are fun, things that excite you. If you are living your values, congratulations! Happiness comes in part from living your life according to your values.
1. Adventure Finding activities where you can explore the unknown.
2. Aesthetics Appreciating or study the beauty of ideas, surroundings or objects.
3. Attractiveness Having a good appearance.
4. Belonging Being accepted as a worthwhile member of a group.
5. Caring Showing compassion. Helping those in need.
6. Challenging Problems Engaging in complex questions and demanding tasks.
7. Community Being part of a supportive community of people.
8. Competition Participating in activities that pit personal skills and abilities against others.
9. Connectedness Being close and connected to others.
10. Conformity Acting and behaving with social norms.
11. Control Being in command of your environment and surroundings.
12. Cooperation Working and acting towards a common end or purpose.
13. Creative Expression Expressing your ideas in novel and unique ways. Having the opportunity for experimentation and innovation.
14. Discovery Exploring and identifying new approaches to the world.
15. Diversity Appreciating differences in people, ideas and situations.
16. Family Building and maintaining a close knit family.
17. Fairness Demonstrating a commitment to justice and the equal treatment of individuals.
18. Fidelity Being faithful and loyal to family and friends.
19. Health Maintaining a healthy body and mind.
20. Honesty Demonstrating truthfulness and sincerity.
21. Humility Demonstrating modesty in behavior, attitude and spirit.
22. Independence Determining a course of action free from control by others.
23. Influence Being in a position to change attitudes or beliefs of other people.
24. Knowledge Engaging in the pursuit of scholarship, truth and understanding.
25. Leadership Having the ability to motivate and inspire others towards a common vision.
26. Loyalty Being steadfast in allegiance to people, ideals or customs.
27. Luxury Enjoying the richness of comforts and pleasures.
28. Passion Feelings of excitement and connection to people, purpose and activities.
29. Pleasure Seeking satisfaction, sensual gratification and fun.
30. Pursuit of Excellence Performing tasks to the best of your ability.
31. Recognition Seeking positive feedback and acceptance for well done tasks.
32. Respect Recognizing others’ worth and right to self determination.
33. Responsibility Demonstrating ethical accountability for decisions and actions.
34. Risk taking Aspiring to the difficult, challenging and sometimes impossible.
35. Security Being free from fear, danger, or risk, to exist in a stable environment.
36. Self-Interest Having regard for one’s interests or advantages, especially with disregard to others.
37. Sensitivity Being aware of and sensitive to the needs and wants of others.
38. Service Contributing to and being involved in efforts to help individuals or groups without motive or personal gain.39. Simplicity Enjoying a simple non complex and excessive life.
40. Spirituality Having awareness of the connection to a higher power, a world view that includes a higher purpose and meaning.
41. Status Gaining the respect of others.
42. Tolerance Recognizing and respect the opinions, practices and behaviors of others.
43. Trustworthiness Fulfilling commitments and keep promises.
44. Wealth Accumulating enough material possessions and money to free yourself from worry.
45. Variety Finding frequent change of activities and settings.
1. Record your responses to the questions below in a values of life journal.
i. What three times in my life have I been the happiest?
ii. What three times have I been the angriest?
After each answer, write the reasons for your happiness or anger. The next step is to discover which of your values were honored by your happiness or violated by your anger.
2. Using the values you discovered from the happiness/anger exercise, group similar values together. For example, risk taking and adventure have similar features. These groupings will become a map for the way you want your life to be, for the things in life that are important to you.
3. Ask yourself: Am I following my life values right now? If not, what changes can I make?
By acknowledging your values of life your self esteem will increase because you are being true to who you are.